love bites. Not mine but for most haha

Is it ever to early to think you’ve fallen in love? This kind of is a really broad question, I know, but there’s just something that bugs me. This story isn’t about me, but I definitely have an opinion about this. I have this friend that thinks she needs to throw herself on a lot of guys. She also says she does not want to get hurt anymore, so she doesn’t want to think about commitment. The last few times she has, a bad outcome has come from it. Bad as in, the guy wanted to be just friends, or friends with benefits, and she just wants someone to be with. I feel really bad because she gets stuck in the most awkward situations and she handles things a lot differently than I do. I get frustrated when she comes to me. I feel like she comes to me to just hear herself talk. I don’t know. It just seems like that sometimes. She never seems to care or listen to what I say or think, she just does what she wants. AND IT NEVER HAS WORKED. I’m sick of it.
This last guy she’s kind of with, or at least she thinks she’s with him, seems like he could be a good guy for her. Perfect actually. They fit really well together. She’s so happy when they talk, blah blah blah, etc. etc. Anyways, she thinks something might happen, or that she expects him to only “be with” her. She’s really naïve though and it hurts me to say this. She met him and spent 4 days with him non-stop and she thinks they are going to start dating almost. The way he talks to her, it sounds like he really likes her. I would get confused and think they might be a thing too. Except for the fact that the last guy she was with talked to her in the same way, saying ‘baby” and “I like you” and all these things, and yet he “only wanted to be friends and he’s just naturally friendly and flirty to everyone”. Oh but she didn’t learn I guess. Yea this new guy is sweet but I don’t trust him and I don’t believe the fact that she’s falling for him. She’s desperate to find someone and anyone who comes along and shows her any type of attention she falls for it.
The other night she had a few drinks “of water” and was falling all over a bunch of guys. Nothing too drastic, and I was ok, in other words I was making sure she didn’t do anything stupid. Anyways, we’re with these guys and she’s flirting with like 3 of them, knowing what she’s doing, and they were all very caring. She might be interested in one or two of them if we didn’t hang out with them a lot, but we do. She’s worried if she does get interested with any of them then it would be awkward. Oh well I say. I don’t give a rats ass if it’s awkward. I told one of my friends today that if I want something I actually go for it and I don’t care about awkward conversations. This one time, in 10th grade I think, I told this guy I was crushing on that I liked him. Yeah it was really awkward, but I just had to, to find out what he thought about me. It turned out he already had a date to homecoming that year and that maybe later, if things change with the girl and him. Well, the next 4 years throughout school he was one of my closest guy friends. He still is. He goes here at Tech, and I care about him still, but definitely not in the same way. It’s definitely a friendship kind of thing now haha. My point of that little story was that I went for it, and I wasn’t afraid and o well, yea I didn’t like the outcome in 10th grade, but what happened after that I loved.
That year for homecoming I went with a guy and we started going out right away. We went out for almost 2 months I think. So for that point in my life, 10th grade, that was a long time. I was “heart-broken” when he dumped me right before Christmas. But AFTER THAT, Alex and I started dating a few months later. So in the end, not going to homecoming with my crush was a good thing. But I gave it a shot.
Some people don’t take risks, and I feel like it hurts them in the end. It certainly hurts her. She doesn’t know what she wants, but all she knows is that she likes “bad boys” and she can’t stay away. I think that’s a load of s*** because she could easily find someone cute and perfect for her if she wanted to. She just throws herself out at the wrong times. If she didn’t want to be with one of the guys we hang out with all the time, then why does she throw herself at them when she’s drinking “water”? She’s just asking for trouble. I don’t like when she does this. I have to deal with it. I feel like she takes advantage of me too, because she doesn’t care about my feelings about things at all. She’ll embarrass me in front of everyone if she could. Some people don’t realize that their actions affect how people think about them.
Some people may wear tight/small clothes, act “touchy” (as in a way of flirting), drink a little too much, sleep with too many other people, or even worse. I hope I never turn into someone like this because people judge you on everything. Yeah it’s not fair, but they do. If she doesn’t want to be judged as a person who never has a guy, she could potentially get judged for being someone who doesn’t want anything. People could perceive it as she wants to explore college like most people. And yet she doesn’t. So she can’t go around trying out all these different people and think something’s just going to happen.
Does anyone have any advice for me? Should I keep being there for her for all the “heart-ache” she gets after all the guys pretend to like her and then tell her just friends? Or should I just sit back and not care? It’s hard.. I’ve gotten both answers. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I know the guy she likes now doesn’t like her, but I can’t just tell her, should i? I really don’t know anymore.. Please help